I am currently 16+1 and got a start on my birth plan yesterday. I had a conversation about who would be allowed at the hospital when the baby is born with my husband. I am already dead set on it being him in the room during the labor and delivery process (he was respectful of this). However, we were discussing who we wanted to be able to have visiting rights after the delivery. My husband is very adamant about his mom being allowed to visit but I don’t want this. She has never treated me with respect and has, in fact, always treated me with disdain. She has called me a slut, a THING, and MANY other rude things TOO MY HUSBAND, behind my back. She’s even gone so far as to tell his sister that the baby isn’t his. On top of that, my husband was born early with jaundice. He has severe hearing problems and had bad behavioral problems as child. She used to tell him all the time that he shouldn’t have made it and that he should have died. She tells him that he’s just ‘selective hearing’. If I don’t let her visit the hospital, my husband wants her to be the first person we visit. To top it off, my own parents aren’t even allowed to visit as they have made no effort to get to know my husband (though have always asked how he’s doing and expressed happiness that we are happy together). The only family member on my family of 11 that is welcome is my little sister because she had made every effort to get to know my husband and absolutely adores him. Other than that, we have invited one family that are mutual friends between the two of us who have been our biggest supports.

Sorry this is so long, but my point is, am I wrong in not wanting her at the hospital and for not wanting her to a big part of my child’s life? I just don’t want to over react but I also don’t want her negativity in my child’s life....