Boyfriend had rejection issues and he says his love language is sex and physical contact. (his “needs”). But when I tell him to wait or no I’m not in the mood, he gets hurt by that rejection an says hurtful things. Which obviously makes me not want to have sex at all.

Well we were texting/arguing because of that this morning and IN THE MIDDLE of it he pulls his phone out an starts to watch porn to jerk off for the second time this morning. Upset, I get up and go make cinnamon rolls.

We argue about it some more, find some way to “remedy” it and move on.

Later after dinner were smoking the good good, an I’m chillin I’m not looking for a threat.

And he asks “does porn offended you?”

Me: “It bothers me when you pull it out in the middle of us arguing about sex. But other than that no.”

Him: “It (porn) makes me feel like I’m not good enough, like you don’t want me, like you’re getting sex from somewhere else. Sorry for doing that *insert excuse*. If having the open page open offends you I can close it”

But I know he wouldn’t do that. Because I’ve told him things on his Instagram offend me before, but he turned right around and followed them again anyway. So why even offer to not do that with porn if you can’t even keep your promise about Instagram??

I personalize things. So I took him asking if porn offends me like he was trying to flip it, and make it seem like I’m crazy and over reacting when that isn’t the issue. When I really have no problem with it.

I feel like he tries to flip things like this to get under my skin. Meanwhile I’m trying to find ways to SOLVE this problem to raise my libido, but he does an says mean stuff when I tell him no.

ps: “toughing it out”. it’s only been 2-3 days..he’s not sex starved.