Deployment blues

So my hubby has been gone a week now for deployment. It’s been crazy. I started off a freaking wreck and I’ve been okay after like three days. We’ve got two kids so I can’t not be there for them. He came at me today with “ I’m gonna have to relearn you when I get back and if this happens once every 2 years that doesn’t seem productive” which has me all like what?! He’s soon to be 23 and I’m 26. Is it just me or does it seem like this deployment is digging at him worse then me or am I crazy for thinking something else is going?