...and I'm honestly a bit disappointed and scared.

My husband was hoping to for a girl as well. My reasoning for wanting a daughter mostly stem from the factthat im a girl, and I feel like I would always relate to her.

Im posting in this group because of my underlying feelings about gender and gender expression. We won't be gendering clothing or toys...girl or boy, we already have dresses and trucks and baby dolls and dinosaurs. We agree that our child should have a healthy mix of all things traditionally 'boy' and 'girl'. My husband grew up doing 'girly' things, and I do plenty of 'boy' things; this is part of who we are, and I love my husband for all he is. He is a kind gentle man; I want my son to be like him.

So we found out yesterday it's a boy. I'm trying not to put so much thought and pressure on that fact, but I can't help it. I'm so worried that the world around him will just see him as a boy who shouldn't cry, should be aggressive, and shouldn't do anything 'girly'. I worry that he won't have a chance to be a tiny, cute and squishy baby. I worry about him growing up in a society will so much toxic masculinity. I know I can't control anyone else's actions, but how do I combat this at home?

Everywhere I look online about gender disappointment just discusses how 'now you can look forward to sports and cars!' with your son, and that... doesn't really have anything to do with it.

Anyone else out there have complicated feelings about raising a boy?