I turn 19 in a few days and I’m moving back to college pretty soon as well so I was shopping for some new underclothes with my mother and she tried to get me to buy the most ugly ones and I kept telling her “no those are ugly I don’t like those, I want different ones” and she had the audacity to say “no ones going to see them anyway so why do you care?” Like getting suuuper defensive and even though I’m abstinent right now, doesn’t mean I won’t be forever. Also just because no one is going to see them doesn’t mean I want to look at myself wearing something ugly...I am so sick and tired of the stigma that wearing cute underwear for yourself or looking cute for yourself is a lie, and that you’re really doing it to try and impress someone. It really makes me feel like shit.