So, I met my boyfriend five months ago, and we’ve been dating for three of those months. We hit it off right away and have been learning so much about each other.

We went camping with his step-brother and his girlfriend back in June, and I had gotten drunk and told him I loved him. I black out when I drink, but will remember more the morning of. I remember I told him, “Hey, can I tell you something? I love you.” And he said “Maybe we should talk about this another time when you’re more aware of things” and I told him again, and I said “I don’t just love you, like I’m IN love with you.” And he said “I love you too.” Later that night I asked if we could have sex and he said “No. You’re not in the right state of mind.” And I kept pressing for it, but he didn’t allow it to happen.

The morning of, he joked about me begging for sex, but didn’t hint at all about saying I love you to each other. We haven’t spoken about it at all. I keep thinking he’s going to bring it up, but he hasn’t. Since June, my feelings have intensified and I really am in love with him and I want to tell him, but I’m afraid it’s “too soon” in our relationship.

What do you think?

For background:

I’m 21 and I work at a car lot as well as an elementary school as a teaching assistant, and I’m in college.

He’s 29 and is a teacher and is currently applying to PhD schools.