I’m really completely lost right now. i don’t know if I’m over reacting or not my mom died a month ago very unexpectedly she was very young and I just had a miscarriage a week ago so I feel like maybe I’m overreacting a little bit. But anyway My husband and I have been married for just over a year and we have an almost two year old. The biggest issue in our marriage is him being honest with me.

The real current issue is the other day my credit card was in his wallet and I was confused why but he told me it was just because of when we went home for my moms funeral when I gave it to him and he forgot to give it back. So I didn’t think anything about it then a week ago I get an email reminding me to pay my bill but we haven’t used that card in about two weeks and I already paid what we used it for for when we went home so Im wondering wtf then I noticed that he used it that exact day that I asked him about it. We both make a decent amount of money and aren’t extremely tight on money but I don’t like using my credit card cause the interest is very high and I’m trying to work on my credit and I only like using right before I get paid so I can pay it right away and he spent 200 dollars. So I asked him about it and I was super pissed because first of all he lied, if he would’ve told me I honestly wouldn’t have cared, Anytime he need money I give it to him I don’t ask questions but if he uses one of my credit cards I like to know that he uses it so I can remember to pay the bill, then he goes I bought you something it was a surprise blah blah. So then I’m like damn I ruined the surprise lol. So I felt kinda bad. Then yesterday I went in our other car to get my sons old clothes out to organize them finally and put them away. And I find a bag with clothes for my son and him in the there and a receipt for one of the purchases that was 150 dollars. So I was very mad I was so fucking pissed I got home and yelled at him and told him pretty much every issue I’ve had with him over the last couple months.

He just stood there fucking dumbfounded that I caught him in a lie and didn’t say anything several times during my rant I asked him are you gonna say anything, do anything, etc. He didn’t say a fucking word not sorry, not anything then he goes I did but you something. So I’m like what he’s like I bought you something, so I’m like you still lied you spent 150 dollars on clothes neither of you need and lied to me about it.

My husband just started working 2 months ago and because of more lying about money and my moms funeral he hasn’t really got to keep any of that income so I give him money when I get paid for his few bills and extra money I basically am in charge of the money because he is so fucking reckless when it comes to money and if he needs anything he can use my debit card no questions asked but I don’t like him using my credit card because he just is so fucking reckless. This is just after him writing a check from my account and him not telling me about it so another one of my bills didn’t go through and I got charged 25 dollars.

I honestly just want to know if I’m just fucking insane and overreacting or not. He still hasn’t said much to me but short answers to my questions but that’s it, I honestly don’t feel like I should apologize. Am I overreacting?