what are we???

I’ve been talking to a guy for a few months now. We met where I live (Florida) and he lives in another state. When he has visited we have a lot of fun and a lot of sex. We talk almost everyday (only texting, he never calls me) but for the last four days he’s been ignoring me. When we do talk it’s like 60% about our lives and 40% about sex. I don’t know if we’re just fucking or if we’re a thing. How should I have that convo?? Should I do it now (before he visits), or wait until he comes back to Florida (if he does visit next week idk at this point)??