Okay this might be a long post but I’m in dire need of some advice here ladies. So I’ve been with my significant other for 11 years, we’re high school sweethearts although we’re not married (neither of us want to get married). We’ve been there for each other through our most difficult times (my mom passing and his parents divorcing). Since I’ve been with this guy for my entire adult life (we’re both 28 now) he hasn’t changed one bit, I feel like I’m still dating the same 17 year old guy and I don’t mean that in a good way. He doesn’t help around the house with anything and if I don’t take care of the laundry, cleaning and bills then nothing gets done. This has always been an area of struggle and I’ve definitely brought it up tons the past 8 years or so that we’ve lived together. I feel like he’s checked out of our relationship and we’ve gotten stuck in a bad routine... he comes home from work and naps for hours so when I’m home and we can spend time together, he’s asleep. He’s up for a couple of hours to have dinner and then he watches YouTube on his phone until he falls asleep again. I feel like I’m completely invisible around him or like he just can’t be bothered. I’m not one of those people that need attention 24/7 but it’s honestly like I don’t exist most of the time.

Passion has also seemed to go right out the door, the only times that we’re intimate is when I initiate it.. I feel like I’m living with a teenage roommate! He’s my best friend and I love him dearly but I’m also tired of being tired, I feel like I deserve to date a MAN who knows I’m there.

I know that a person will not change unless they want to make that change for themselves.. I’ve learned that lesson over and over again.

It’s not easy for me to lay my issues out on the table and I understand that some people have it much worse than I do but I also don’t know if I want to spend another 11 years of my life like this? He’s a great and faithful guy but I’m just unsure if that’s enough to overpower the other issues at hand.

If you’ve read up until this point then thank you! Would appreciate any words of wisdom.