Telling Family about Pregnancy

I know this is the relationship group but hopefully some of you can answer a question about familial relationships.

I’m not that close with a few members of my family. For many reasons but mainly how they treated me growing up and especially how they treated my mom when she was alive. I know that people can change & realize the error of their ways etc. Bit I stopped talking to them like years ago. I still have 1 person on social media and that’s just out of kindness & so they can see that I’m doing okay and don’t try to call me.

So when I’m pregnant (not yet, but thinking about this is giving me anxiety), should I tell them? Or let them find out via social media? I would tell family that I’m actually close to and my husbands immediate family. Everyone else (distant family and friends) would find out on SM. Just because I don’t have the time or energy to make 10+ individual phone calls. I don’t want to deal with them calling me when they find out because I still won’t care to talk to them. But I don’t want the drama of them feeling butt hurt for me not telling them (as if I owe them anything...).

How would you handle family that you’re not close to any special news??

*a little more insight: my maternal grandmother and cousins is who I’m not close to.

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