Are you old fashioned that way?

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When you (or your partner) gets pregnant and you are not married, are you old fashioned in the sense that that automatically means you have to get married right away before the baby comes?

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I don't think a rushed marriage is old fashioned , I think it's an immature response to an adult situation. People put pressure on themselves to get married because it's "the right thing to do" without thinking it through. If a pregnancy is the only thing committing you to each other it's not going to work out.

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I was pressured by parents in to marrying my abusive ex husband after we had two kids. Worst mistake of my life. Don't ever feel pressured in to marriage if you don't feel it's right. Even my mom regrets telling me to get married.

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I'm a JW so I don't have sex before marriage but if it was to happen, and a baby resulted I wouldn't get married just because of a baby coming. I wouldn't want to rush into a marriage. You could mess up big time if that's why you are getting married. Plenty of older women had shotgun weddings and ended up with abusive men just ask ones you know who's husbands have died.

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Marriage to me is a contract to love someone. There are times when walking away is the easiest option and that's why marriage isn't always easy. I think it is important to be the model of a relationship for your children. I'm not saying single parents are good role models (hello, superior work ethic) but I do feel fortunate to have been raised under one roof.

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Nope, it will be cheaper insurance wise for me to have children unmarried, so that's how i'm going about it.

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Heck no. I got pregnant with my first child from a one night stand. I wanted to keep my baby so I did. Didn't dare try to keep the man. Let's just say that tequila makes him look and act more appealing. Haha

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No I wouldn't marry just because of a child. My SO got a girl pregnant off a one night stand and they kept telling him he had to marry her and if he didn't they'd call the cops he didn't they called the cops and told them if he didn't marry her they wanted him to get arrested and the cop laughed. She is still bitter he didn't marry her. He still takes care of his son but why would you want to marry someone you don't love?

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No. I wouldn't go through with a pregnancy if I wasn't already in a committed relationship with the father.

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Nope, I was born out of wedlock, so was my brother. My mother was never married, and she raised us as a single mother. Not the "traditional" family setting, so I was raised that way. It may be important to some people to get married before having a baby but nowadays, it's less of an issue ☺️

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No, my son was born out of wedlock but we decided when we married it'd be for love not obligation. We did end up getting married well after he was born though and now have our second baby on the way.

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