I’m getting a divorce with my husband and I’m having some money issues. For about 9months now I’ve been paying all of our phone bill to include my husbands, his grandmother iPad, and mine. Even though we said we would take turns each month, that never happened. I had a talk with my husband recently and I asked what we should do about the penalty fee once we cancel the plan and he said I should pay it???

He doesn’t pay rent or any other bill that includes me. All accounts like Netflix, iCloud, iTunes that we shared he took me off of.

The only problem is that I’m in the military so I get BAH (basic housing allowance). I know a lot of military spouses think they are obviously deserving of the money but it’s money I worked for, pulling 24hr shifts, working on vehicles which is not part of my specific job, no freedom and on duty at all times. Not to mention being deployed.

If he was paying rent then sure, the money would go there but he’s not. Also we had a joint savings account that I put in 1600 a month and he put 400-600 (which he kept taking money without telling me). And he wanted half of it so I gave it to him.

We don’t pay rent, don’t have a baby, I pay for ours and his family’s phone bill and he still wants me to pay for everything else.

Also it’s not possible for him to sue me for the BAH unless we were married for 20years.

Is this something I should bite the bullet and pay? I’m 21 and he’s 28 and it felt like I was raising a kid during our whole marriage. Also I ended it with him because he was being controlling, obsessive, and verbally violent.