Masturbation, is it okay?

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As a young Christian woman I have made the decision not to have sexual relations with my fiance. We have both has sex b4 our relationship and we have had sexual relations b4 while dating. We are now in our mid 20s We have been abstaining all of 2019 so far. I don’t want to have sex with him until we are married and we just got engaged this summer. During the time that I ovulate I get urges. Usually i can distract myself from it but biology will be what it is. Is it wrong or sinful for me to take time for myself and touch myself? I feel dirty or shameful when I’m done but I still think of doing it and only when i’m ovulation gets when the urge is strong. Glow sisters, what do you think?

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Hi beautiful, there is nothing in scripture that directly says you shouldn’t. However, because you’ve expressed that it makes you feel dirty and shameful I don’t believe you should. That is the Holy Spirit within you saying “this is not right” no answer or suggestion on this post should trump what you feel in your spirit.
Masturbation also requires some type of mind stimulation as well. What do you think about? Are there mental pictures in your mind contrary to what you know should be there instead? Repeatedly doing this leaves a crack for addiction to creep in. I’ve been here before. 
The gift of sexual arousal is a gift and a curse. God gave it to us for creation. Can you use that alone time to create within your gifts and talents instead?

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Joseph in the Bible wanted was thinking about having relations with a woman and she said were alone no one will know but Joseph said God knows, God was with him if you feel comfortable doing that worldly pleasure in front of God and justifying it on the great white throne judgment have at it I personally do not think masterbaiting is ok but it’s between you and God.

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There is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with masturbating! Don’t feel sinful or shameful! And don’t let anyone else make you feel that way either! No where in the Bible does it say you can’t do it! And god isn’t gonna judge you for it either! You don’t have to justify anything “before the big white throne” when it comes to you taking care of yourself! I believe we were given the privilege to take care of ourselves for a reason so in no way shape or form should you feel bothered by taking care of yourself!!!

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The Bible says that God designed sex for husband and wife to experience together. He did not design pleasing oneself. That includes the verse saying “do not deprive your spouse of sex” so if your spouse isn’t pleasing you sexually, the best thing for you to do is talk to them about it, and not go off and please yourself. that’s not what it’s designed for. Hope this helps:)

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The way most people interpreted the Bible, was you are not supposed to think of having sex with a person. So if you can masturbate without thinking of someone then go for it. But honestly you should read the Bible and get your own interpretation.

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For whoever looks at someone with lust has already committed adultery in their heart. Lust is sin.

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I believe that masturbation is okay.
I also believe that premarital sex is also okay, as long as it is done as an expression of love between two people in a loving and committed relationship.
Ultimately, you and your fiance will have to pray about your questions and decide for yourselves what you want to do.

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I don't know about you but to me as a Christian woman you should not touch yourself, only your husband has the right you don't have the right yourself, believe me girl if you do this and after that you feel bad this means God's spirit inside you do not agree with what you are doing, in the eyes of the Lord is a sin, is the same as uncleanliness. I had this before and it led me no where, God has given us self control pray about it ask God to help you and you will be ok. I know the body talk to us alot when it comes to ovulation as a woman and all that but hey, let God take the wheel.

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I’m just gonna say you already had sex with your fiancé what’s the difference now.

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As a Christian woman myself, it’s not for me to judge what and how you feel during ovulation. Let me commend you guys on the decision to stay abstinent until marriage despite you guys prior sexual experiences once you got engaged. That’s not any easy decision on a whole. So if you been feeling some type of way after pleasing yourself then try find an alternative distraction.

Masturbation, is it okay?

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