Okay give it to me straight.

Alright so my mother in law lives with us. She has two foster kids that also lives with us. They are my husbands cousins kids. So anyways the oldest which is 13 was watching 13 reasons why and my mother in law walked through the house right as they had someone bent over a toilet and shoving a broom stick up his butt. My mother in law started yelling telling her to turn it off and like basically losing her mind over it. The one watching it got upset because she was getting yelled at and so then they both were upset. My mother in law messaged me apologizing to me for yelling like that and this is what I said back.

Im going to give you my honest opinion and it may make you mad at me but this is my thoughts on it. __ has a lot to deal with as do you and ___ but ___ is a teenager and any teenager is hard to handle much less one with all these issues like she has. I understand what she was watching was not good for her to watch but i know how i have watched shows before and they just throw in a scene all the sudden. It doesn't mean the whole show is like that. I have looked up what the parent rating is online for that since you noticed her watching that and according to online it is made for audiences 12-18 but it said that it was up to parents to decide if it was age appropriate for their child. I haven't ever watched 13 reasons why but i truly don't think ___ realized they were going to do that. (Maybe im wrong) All i know is when anyone yells at her like that then that is when she wants to self harm herself more. Also with your anxeity attacks you have been having lately i am sure it is not good for you to get worked up like that either. I think for your health and ____ mental health things are going to have to change or its not going to end well for either of you. maybe when ___ does something wrong like with the tv instead of getting all worked up just tell her that isn't appropriate and to change to something better without yelling at her. (Im not trying to tell you how to parent just giving you ideas to maybe help you with her) Im sure parenting has to be hard specially when they aren't even your own kids but if you are going to keep them till they are grown or even if you arent things are going to have to change specially for your health. (The blanks are where i was saying the name and my mother in law does have a lot of health issues.) Did i go to far? Should i have stayed out of it? If you were the foster parent and I had said that would you appreciate it or be pissed off at me?