My MIL is not my favorite person. I do not trust her and I do not care for the way she lives or raised her boys. She never taught them anything and continues to try to coddle them even though they are both almost 30. I married the baby. She ignored me at our wedding, didn't smile in any of the photos, and even tried to get the photographer to send my wedding photos only to her. She is a chain smoker who sits next to her elderly husband (71) who has severe COPD and is on oxygen in the house. We are having the first biological grandchild in December and she is already a nightmare about it. She whined and cried to my husband the other day about me not visiting her enough and that I only come around when I want something (never asked her for a thing btw) We work full time and only ever have 1 day off a week together and she works 60 hours a week so I havent seen her since before she knew I was pregnant. This drove a huge wedge into my marriage and my husband was upset with ME for days after that conversation. Like there was anything I could do about how SHE feels. We are trying to close on a house, work full time, have an 8 year old child, and are expecting another. But it's my fault I never go visit? Shes never there and we are minimal on time off anyway. Am I wrong or is she seriously delusional?