Sexual boundaries rant

I worry about the general acceptance that after months/years of being in relationships and being sexually active that people are shutting down those who have genuine upset over their partners not giving sexually and communicating it in quite callous ways.

You should never ever ever feel pressured or pressure someone into sexually doing anything to you or to them, that’s point blank not okay.

Saying that when some people are on here letting others know their situations at home of how their partners won’t go down on them or give them blow jobs that the first thing that people jump to is “leave them alone they don’t have to you might stink, etc” it’s not helpful or entirely fair. Some of these people have been together for years and their partners lack the ability to communicate with them or do communicate and do it nastily. Holding someone back sexually is unfair, if you don’t like doing or performing something, let them know and do it early on. Some people believe it or not want to be having fruitful sex lives that include all sorts of foreplay and to just half way into your partnership start refusing to do it or insult their bodies as excuse to stop isn’t fair. A lot may and probably do disagree with this but too many people are giving out unfair and pretty nasty advice over these topics, yes we see and hear them everyday, it gets annoying for some, fair enough but it can be distressing. Understanding takes little effort, kindness too.