Epidural ?

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So I'm 14 and fixing to have my baby . I'm more than  100% aware that that is way young and I have no business being pregnant at such an age but I'm not asking for judgment , simply for advice on how to convince my mom to let me get an epidural . She says since I put myself in this position like a grown woman , I'm going to feel the pain like a grown woman . My entire pregnancy has been an emotional roller coaster . My first trimester I was constantly contemplating suicide and my depression was over the roof . My mental health is better now but physically I'm not okay . Anyone in the third trimester can back me up . I have been through way too many struggles and pain and suffering and don't need the pain of labor and birth to add on top of that . I've tried to tell her but she doesn't agree . Because I'm a minor , the doctors need her consent to give me any medication so it's out of my hands . I don't know what to do 😣

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In a lot of states, at 14, you can actually ask that she not be there and make your own decisions about medication.  Ask your OB if that’s the case in your state.  My daughters are 14 and 16 and both have had to sign forms stating it was okay for me to be involved in their healthcare.

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Talk to the OB. You should be able to get epidural if there’s no medical concerns. Meaning if there’s not a medical reason that prevents you from getting it, your mom can’t punish you by torturing you in pain.

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It’s your decision, not hers. Discuss it with your OB and be sure to speak up for yourself in the delivery room. If you want the epidural when the time comes, she can’t stop you. You just tell the nurse and they will let you get one. Your mom sounds toxic, you could probably request she not be in the room at all if you want. Sorry you’re feeling down and out about everything, but stay strong!

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Me personally I would prefer natural my 1 st I had her natural at 19 yrs an the second time around I plan on doing the same going natural but that’s just my preference but for you Maybe when your mom sees you In too much pain she will let you get the epidural hopefully good luck ither way 👏

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Since this is your pregnancy and baby she actually has no say in if you get an epidural or not. It’s up to you and consent will be up to you. I have my first at 16 and my parents didn’t sign for anything it was all me.

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I was 16 when I had my first baby. I didn’t need my parents consent for anything

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They teach in birthing classes that if you feel like you are going to feel traumatized by the pain and stress of your birth it’s in your best solution to get an epidural. By that meaning if you can’t have a birth that makes you feel happy and wonderful bringing a human into the world naturally and you’ll hate the entire thing then that can have an affect on you in more ways than people realize. It can make postpartum depression harder to handle as well. You make whatever medical choices you want to make. I’d go personally to the hospital you’re birthing at or call them and ask if they would listen to you or your mother because I’d be mad asf if someone wants me to have a traumatic experience bringing a baby in the world. It doesn’t matter if you’re 14 and need to “learn your lesson” or whatever. That’s childish on her part. People make mistakes and the way people learn is by going through the whole experience of raising a child in this case, not making it traumatic for you. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I don’t understand parents like that and I hope you learn to NOT to that to your child when they grow up later on. Be supportive more than your mother has and good luck to your pregnancy! No shame in the age from here. Shit happens lol

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Once you are pregnant you are considered emancipated medically and you control the rights to your medical decisions. She can give her opinions but it’s ultimately up to you.

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Hey lovie that’s pretty messed up if you’re not allowed to decide for yourself. However if that is the way that it ends up turning out, try and start focusing on how strong and powerful you are. 14 or not. You CAN give birth. Our bodies were made to do it. I’ve had a medicalized birth and then 2 non-medical. I would do natural 100/100 times over again. It doesn’t hurt as much as people like to glorify. It’s about frame of mind. If you focus on pain it’s all you’ll feel. Get up and walk and bounce and dance with a birth partner. Look it up. It’s. It as “out there” as it sounds. use gravity to your benefit. Women were not meant to birth on our backs (our anatomy proves this) but doctors like it because They can interfere and check us easier.  You don’t need checked. You need to talk to your baby and believe in yourself. Again, get the epidural if you can and still want it but if your mom is actually able to wield her power over you and refuse then prepare now so you’re ready. Look online for resources on empowering births and meditations like “hypnobirthing” - yes I know how stupid it sounds. I thought it was a bunch of hippie garbage before I had one!! It was amazing. I reached down and pulled my daughter up to my chest all by myself while pushing. I have never felt so amazing in all of my life. So it IS possible. For me. For you. For all women without medical conditions or emergencies. And if mom ends up giving her consent then that is the way you’re able to go. Don’t count yourself short because of age.

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I’m in Texas, and had first at 15. I didn’t need mother’s consent.

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