Hello.

Fawn • 👶🏼 07/29/18
I'm glad I found this group but I wish it was more active. I've pretty much been depressed/low self esteem since I was young. I've always been compared to my little sister & she was the "prettier" one. I wore glasses (contacts now) and my teeth are crooked. Ive always been called ugly. I am in the military and I failed my promotion board because I'm quiet and have no confidence. I haven't had confidence my whole life so how can I have it for work? Im feeling very stressed & depressed about it. I don't know what to do, I love my job but how do I fake confidence? I feel like I'm not gonna go far because of this. I feel like I don't really have anyone to talk to. My infertility really doesn't help depression either. I use to talk to a counselor but I feel like she wasn't very helpful, all she would do is just ask how my week was. The present is not my problem, I am sad and hurt over the past: infidelity, miscarriage, the cause of my infertility. The psychiatrist wouldn't give me meds he told me to work out and it will get better. I have been working out everyday & I've lost almost 20 lbs. My feelings haven't changed. I'm sorry this is so long, I guess I just needed to let everything out
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Ev

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Hi. I'd like to start off this response by saying thank you for serving for our/your country. Whatever country you're in, thank you for being loyal and fighting for your freedom. I'm so very sorry to hear about your depression. Your psychiatrist sounds like crap. I can't recommend a lot over a comment, because I don't know much, but I believe that it is high time to find a new psychiatrist. The one who is supposed to be helping you at the moment isn't doing his/her job, the way they should be. Perhaps, find a different clinic or practice.Depression is something that is hard to live with, as you probably know. All I can recommend is finding someone you love, and who loves you back, and hugging them as tightly as you can. Hugs are a proven way to make you feel better. I know I didn't do much to help, and I wish I could do more... Feel free to write as much as you wish on the group because everyone on it is willing to talk to you and everyone is willing to help. You're so strong. I hope that your depression lifts and I also hope that you will be able to see how beautiful you really are one day. You may not fit the standards your sister does, but you create a new, unique beauty all on your own. Thank you for taking the time to read this. We're all here for you, every step of the way xxx

Kr

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Learn that every human being is amazingly different, you possibly have great qualities that make you so unique!! Look at those and don't think about your sister, don't compare your self to your sister at all, she is her self and possibly is going through her own issues too, we should never want to be in other people's shoes, we don't know what it's like, imagine so many people that's having a bad time and they'd do anything to be in our position, there are always good things in our lives and we have to learn to see them, the smallest of details make the difference every day :) Wake up everyday and make positive affirmations such as: I am well rested, I have a comfortable bed, I have a beautiful home, I have the yummiest breakfast, my body works amazing, thank you body!! Thank for your job, thank for your appearance, look at your self in the mirror and look at the things you like the most, look at them closer, smile at them, learn to see your self, embrace your feminity, cause life goes fast, and we only have one life to live, make sure you enjoy every day, and that you fall in love with you, there is no one else like you in this planet and you're your best friend, love your best friend!! Xx

Er

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You should do something that you are good at it will boost your confidence. You could try a new haircut or color, that always makes me feel good. 

Er

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I understand.  I have a twin who was always prettier and better at everything. I've suffered from depression for years off and on. Unfortunate there aren't a lot of women on this site, so you don't really get the support you would from the other sites on Glow. But I check it quite often so I'll always answer you. Happy to have you!