You're boring and depressed

You don’t have to be unhappy in a relationship because that’s unfair to you. You’re married and divorce is probably not an option but Meanwhile you’re still meeting all his needs and making him happy while suffering in silence. I would suggest first having a serious conversation with him alone about your sex life because you may not be able to get a place together right away but you can fix the sex life. Try telling him what it is you want during sex because you won’t get it unless you ask for it. Trust me, if you wait for him to figure it out, he never will and you’ll be unsatisfied during sex and you’ll probably end up cheating which is unnecessary especially if he can deliver. But if you tell him what you want he still does not meet your needs, then I would consider someone else because it’s like “I’m literally telling you what I want to feel on my body and you’re not delivering”, And I do know most men have sex with the intention to come, and not the intention to please. I would also consider not getting him off until you’ve gotten off at least once or more times because once you start pleasing him and he gets his, yours doesn’t matter anymore. I would take the initiative to start looking for places myself and once you find something you like I would bring it to his attention that way you guys can start moving towards moving out or saving up towards getting the place that you want.