When I was about 10 or so my cousin who was 16/17 would tell me to kiss him; touch his penis and suck his penis eventually he took my virginity.

This happened till I was about 12 every time we were alone, I never told anyone, I never at the time fought it was not okay and just done it I would think oh wow I’m a grown up and would just allow it to happen.

I am now 22 and after all these years I have internally let it go and not thought anything of it as I was happy to do it at the time it’s not like I wasn’t to fault to much either.

I have now have a partner who I have been with for one year, his asked me about my virginity and after lying for about 11 months I just let it out and told him.

My family where I live is very small, it’s

My mum, bro, auntie, 2 cousins.

The cousin who I was intimate with has always been an active member of my family: parties, dinners, birthday. My mum only has one sister where we live and it’s her son.

I told my boyfriend that I am able to be normal around him, we have gone on family holidays etc.. and do not think nothing of it however he now cannot accept it or be around my family because he will be there.

He told me I had to tell someone he can’t have this on his shoulders that one day he will get angry and no one will understand why.

I told my mum because of this although I didn’t want to, she mostly said why didn’t I tell her at the time and was brushed off she asked me what I wanted I said nothing just wanted to say, it was brushed off.

She and I are able to move past it all and behave normal and continue...

Now my relationship is being effected because he wants me to tell my whole family or to tell him to not be around my family to not come around my house for any gathering and not be part of my life entirely.

I don’t feel comfortable doing this as I have left the past in the past and don’t want to break up the family on something that has happened in the past or cause something big...

There is a big strain now on my relationship, every family bday etc he said will not attend.

Apart from my cousin being there my family is very important to me and this breaks my heart and I don’t feel like I can do it...

I don’t know what to do...

Is there any advice or opinion on this situation...