How do you stay motivated???

Question

Hello, time for a little rant😒 I’m currently 9 weeks pp and I’m wanting to get back to my pre pregnancy weight and feel comfortable in my own skin again. ( yes I know I should be proud of my body for creating life) I am incredibly proud of my self and my body, but I still wanna feel good about myself. 
The thing is I get unmotivated 😩 I just live with my husband who has said multiple times he’s wanting to get in shape as well but makes no effort to do so. We have talked about keeping each other motivated. I was really motivated for 2 weeks.. eating healthy meals watching how much I snack etc. My husband told me he hates the meals I’ve been making and wants something different. We got into a discussion about how I thought we were supposed to be eating healthy and staying motivated, he just shrugged his shoulders and walked away... sooo I’ve been buying non entirely all bad food because it’s what he will eat ( my husband is an extremely picky eater soo we eat like the same meals like every week and I’m dying 😭) 
Anyways for those 2 weeks I tried working out as much as I could with our 2 month old. A lot of the times I find no time in my day to workout because I’m always tending to his needs. My husband works mon-Friday soo I’m home alone most of the time with the baby. My husband rarely helps out unless I’m cooking dinner or showering. Other than that it’s all my tending to our baby.. which then makes me unmotivated because I can’t find anytime during the day and I tell myself ”what’s the point of working out if I cant even get 15-20mins”. 
I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve talked to my husband about wanting me time but my husband thinks I don’t spend my me time wisely when he can be playing his games. He just doesn’t understand😭😭
What are ways you stay motivated when no one else around you helps you stay motivated??

Answer

You need to get your partner to support you in becoming healthy. I am lucky that i have always tried to be healthy (diet/exercise) since high school. My SO changed his lifestyle and lost 80lbs before I met him. We keep each other accountable. I am 9 weeks pp. I told him that unless he wanted me to buy a whole new wardrobe for work, that he needed to make sure i have time to work out during the day. I strength train 2x per week and do it with my baby. I will use him as weight for squats and lunges. I do tummy time with him in between circuits. Sometimes I will lay out a blanket on the floor and let him sleep in the room. We also have a bouncer that he sits in while i cycle. I limit my cardio workouts to 30 minutes and do 1 to 2 minute intervals. That way if he starts crying, then getting off to console him is no big deal. 
I also take him for a walk with the dog. I plan on taking him for runs when he is 6 months. just make sure that whatever you do, your baby is well fed with a clean diaper before you start it.
As far as your husband goes... Make a healthy dinner for yourself and if he doesnt want to eat it, then tell him to make his own dinner. Dont let him drag you down. My parents are like this and my mom is morbidly obese. Now with a ton of health issues. Make taking care of yourself a priority. If you arent happy and healthy, then how in the world do you expect to take care of your child?

Answer

Girl I feel you in a lot of ways. My husband doesn’t help out with the baby either. He plays with him, but since my husband works all day, he comes home and doesn’t really take care of the baby. Even on weekends, he hides in the bedroom. As for working out and eating healthy though, I fear I’m the problem there. 
I have a hard time eating healthy. I’d rather eat nothing at all than eat the healthy food my husband likes when he’s motivated. In any case, there are ways you can work out with your baby while your husband is at work. You can do yoga at home with the baby, or even some cardio. Use your baby like he’s a pile of weights. Your baby will love being swung around, and you get your workout. 
Jogging with the stroller is also a good way to work out with your baby. Don’t rely on your husband to motivate you. If he doesn’t want to be motivated, he can’t help you. I’d find other people through apps like this, or exercise apps, to help you stay motivated. 
Your husband will either come around and change his lifestyle with yours, or he won’t. It’s up to him. I can tell you one thing though, my husband doesn’t grocery shop, so whatever is in the house is what he has to eat. I don’t let him cheat on his diet unless he specifically asks me to buy him a specific thing to eat. 🙂

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