Is it appropriate to have a baby shower if this isn’t your first pregnancy ?

Question

My friend says it should depend on how far your pregnancies were. I have 3 kids and my last pregnancy was 7 years ago. My first baby shower was actually with my 3rd child, not my first or second.

Answer

Option 5. As long as you’re not throwing it yourself it doesn’t matter. No matter if it’s your first or your 13th it’s tacky to throw a party for yourself where the point is to get gifts. If you’re not throwing it it doesn’t matter.

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Growing up, I was told that a baby shower was a one time thing... nowadays it’s more common to have more than one. I’ve never felt comfortable having more than one but that’s just me. I’m currently pregnant and a few of my friends want to throw me a baby shower. They know how I feel about it so I keep telling them no but they are persistent. I already have 3 children and had a baby shower almost 10 years ago. As far as other people go, I would say it depends how spaced out your pregnancy was from the last. Also, select what you absolutely need, not want. I would never request a baby shower...it’s best if it’s a surprise. If you don’t need anything, I would just have a small gathering to celebrate your pregnancy.

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It just depends. I am pregnant with my second, and my first is just shy of 2. We still have all the baby stuff, and we don’t NEED anything, honestly. So, it just feels greedy for me to have another, so I’m not going to. 
But my friend never intended to have another kid, and she sold everything after the first. And SURPRISE, she got pregnant about 3 years later and needed everything, so she had a shower, which was totally understandable. 
I think it just depends. The only time I am irritated with it is if someone has several kids back to back and they have full showers for each. Because honestly, what can you possibly need at that point other than diapers?

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My last pregnancy was 11 years ago and I have no intentions of a shower for this (my 4th) baby. While I appreciate any gifts I happen to recieve, it is not the responsibility of my friends and family to provide for my child. I would not have had a shower for my firstborn had it not been a total surprise.

Is it appropriate to have a baby shower if this isn’t your first pregnancy ?

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