I have always had a poor relationship with my dad, he’s an alcoholic and I cut him out my life about 5 years ago, he is a liar and just not a nice person. He has recently messaged me to tell me that his parents are dying (I don’t see them because of him) and basically I don’t know what to do.

I don’t want to visit them just because they are dying, I don’t want to visit them to ‘save’ myself feeling once they are gone. I definitely don’t want them to think I’m only going to make sure I get some inheritance or something. I’ve not seen them for the majority of my life, just because they are dying why should that change things?

Of course I bet they are scared that they are going to die, and my dads mum will wonder what she did wrong or why we don’t see them. They’ve not done anything wrong for me to not see them but so much drama happened with my dad they became collateral damage essentially.

The last 8 months have been amazing for me, I’ve suffered all my life with depression and now I’m finally working and in a happy relationship, moved out but I’m worried that opening my life up to them will set me back again.

What would you do in my situation?