Toddler question

Elizabeth
This probably isn't the right app or group to post this on, but glow is the only group I'm a member of.. So here goes: I have a 2 1/2 yo girl, we've tried potty training (sort of) she peed on the potty twice but now refuses and screams when we ask. I don't want to force it, but lately she's been holding her Urine so much and so long that she literally soaks through a diaper and onto whatever (this last time, me) she's sitting/laying on. I'm at my wits end, and DONE with the extra laundry. Any suggestions? Side note: I know holding urine is a good sign for potty training readiness, but I also know forcing a kid can lead to health and behavioral problems.