Is My Boyfriend’s Mum Right? Feeling Hurt...

I posted a few days ago asking (specifically parents) if my relationship with my boyfriend was too ‘intense’

Basically the post said I’m 18, my boyfriend is 19 and we’ve been dating 2 and a half years. Since about May we have been seeing a lot of each other - staying at each other’s places roughly 6 nights a week. I go to university and he has a job which cuts some time out but we see each other a lot and contribute to each other’s households by making dinner and desserts sometimes.

About 12 comments were left saying it’s completely fine, and sounded like a healthy relationship.

My boyfriend just expressed to me how stressed he is with finding a second job, studying for an army interview coming up in a couple weeks and how his mum is always bombarding him.

She also said we are spending way too much time together and it’s interfering with him finding another job, studying etc.

I am very invested in his family. I come from a broken home, and being part of his family gives me a sense of normalcy...I can’t help but take this to heart and be hurt by it. As if she sees me as some type of burden that’s holding her son back, or that she doesn’t believe our relationship is important enough.

I understand taking time out to spend with friends and family. A night or two a week I make sure I’m with my mum, and try to have a girls night once a fortnight as well as see my friends between classes at university. That time is so important to me.

I want her approval desperately and to make her happy, as well as hopefully taking stress off of my boyfriend by doing as she says but I also don’t want people to dictate our relationship...

Any advice is appreciated ❤️