I am getting coffee with my Mother in Law to discuss how we can get on better footing with each other. I could use some prayers for it to go well. It has been a rough few years and my inability to vocalize when she is being hurtful has made such bad resentment. Now with giving birth to her first grandchild she has been so pushy not being respectful and she's overbearing I am getting such anxiety with any interaction with her. I really need to create boundaries in a respectful way and have her understand she is grandma not mom. That I try my hardest to make both of our families as fair as possible and that as much as I try to be fair it will never be fair and that is ok too. I need her to understand that her expectations may not always be met because they do not match mine and I am the mom. That the baby is 4 months old and she has plenty of time to bond and form a relationship with the baby but he is a baby and should be with his parents and in his home.

Please help me not damage an already fragile relationship and set healthy adult boundaries.