I don’t mean to be a complete cow but my MIL has memory issues. No fault of her own and I’m not mad at her for that. She is undergoing tests currently.

But she keeps telling me that my yet-to-be-born son is my first child and that my first birth didn’t count despite being very aware that I gave birth to a daughter at 20 weeks last year. I proceed to remind her that my son is my second child and she says oh yes but this birth will be different. I then say I will let me her know if I it is as I’m the only one in the position to say. But she tells me anyway that the birth will be different, completely ignoring me and not caring about my feelings.

And topping it all off, we end up having the same conversation every time I see her pretty much once a week.

It is exhausting and is causing me so much anxiety because I don’t want to snap at her because her memory problems aren’t what I’m mad at. It’s her continuously ignoring our daughter. She says the same thing to my partner, her son, but I am finding it really difficult to cope and am currently going through CBT with a doctor as I’m so stressed out.

My sister similarly told me that she didn’t understand why I would use my previous birth experience as a guide for the birth of my son. I’m just trying to stay positive and remind myself that I have had hours of contractions and done it once before in order to stay calm. Do people really think I think it will be exactly the same?? Of course not!!

My partners sister was also insensitive, talking about old wives tales and telling us to not keep the pushchair/travel system in the house because it’s bad luck. Ermmm, we already lost a baby despite not having one last year but thanks for bringing it up! Why would you say that to people who have already lost a child?

I have a feeling that the rest of my life will consist of me reminding people of our daughter and it’s tiring. Am I wrong to feel this way or am I overreacting? Surely if they don’t care about hurting my feelings, I shouldn’t worry about reminding them of my daughter.