Last Name Options ...

In a perfect world, you “get married first” and the husband and wife share a last name which then gets passed down to their children. Well, I don’t live in that perfect world and I’m having a really hard time figuring out how to go about my baby’s last name. Most people just automatically give their baby the Daddy’s last name, but I feel that down the road I won’t like not having the connection of us having the same name. How do you explain to your child why your last names are different and their friends and their parents aren’t? I thought about giving the baby my last name but then, is that selfish to take away from their Father? Could my child possibly grow up to wonder why I did that and be upset they don’t share that part of their Dad? Or, do I hyphen both our last names? And if I do so, will it affect my child later in life? I’m already thinking about what that would look like on the back of a jersey for whatever sport they play, how it will appear on a resume for work or how in the hell that works if my baby is a boy and they get married...the wife now inherits the hyphenated last name? 🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

Will they wonder why, again, they are “different”? I know I’m thinking way far ahead in the future with the questions that may or may not arise one day but I feel it’s only smart to prepare myself for that. Suggestions and insight are welcome, judgment is not, so take that elsewhere. Thanks in advance