I used to have interest in a man when I was in grade school into high school and he left me after an event in my life and I just recently found out he has interest in my sister and I’m confused because he took my virginity and was so mean after I’m wondering what I should do about it because I have obsessive thoughts about this happening and genuinely thought he cared about me and the way I felt about him doing this but I’m not sure if that’s true. My sister has a bf and just went to him on the side and would suggest he start new things with a friend of mine that led me to not being able to be friends with her because I have problems when people close to me keep secrets and act secretively. I’m just confused in my life now and wish I could go back and not see it as something that would come back to me or something that wouldn’t set me back in life as it has. Should I seek out therapy about these obsessive thoughts of him coming back to me when nothings been shown to me that he will?