My husband is not good at communicating. He never talks dirty to me. He doesn’t talk much period. And due to the nature of his work we barely have time to talk about us anyways. Just about the bills and baby and that’s about it.

Its getting very annoying trying to talk to him now. He just gets mad when I say he doesn’t want to have sex ever instead of talking about it.

If I ever say I want to spice things up or try something new he gets mad and says there’s more important things to worry about than sex positions.

After having a baby we have not had sex in months and he never brings it up either. It makes me feel ugly and fat. I have told him this too. I don’t have much of a sex drive after baby either but it bothers me that HE doesn’t want to either. I have asked him again and again why not and he says he’s just tired all the time or says I’m the one who doesn’t want to even tho he has never initiated or asked me once. The few times I have asked he says ok tonite, but tonite never happens.

About 5 months went by without sex and I’m looking for the nail clipper for my baby and I find a fleshlight in his bathroom drawers. Now it makes sense why he doesn’t need me.

I just don’t understand. Why use that when u have a wife waiting for u everyday? I just don’t get it.