Hi! So this is long, but I’m in the hospital with preeclampsia due to deliver Monday, so I need advice now. Backstory: I have a 15 month old by another man. He isn’t involved at all. My son is severely medically complex (requires oxygen, tube feeds, doesn’t move) very complex. My boyfriend (joe) is the father of the baby I’m currently pregnant with, but is for all purposes my sons father also. He’s been in our lives since he was 2 months old, and is the best to both of us. Now, Joes parents are divorced. Mom lives far, dad and his new wife and child, very close. His father and his wife don’t acknowledge my son, or ask about him, ask about how we are, anything. They haven’t really done much with this pregnancy either. His mom however, is OVER THE TOP with the baby we are pregnant with. She wants to be involved in lots, including the both and whatnot. I’m not very gentle when it comes to my boundaries, so I said no and I don’t really care who says what- I’ll call security if needed. My main concern is that she is a heavy drinker and smoker. My son can not be around that. Not even for just the obvious health risks, but it can literally kill my son.. joe wants his mom to say for like 4 weeks and help with our sons while we adjust. My son has a full time nurse, and in terms of the newborn- I would prefer we spend time bonding and not handing him off. I’ve addressed this with joe, and of course it was “why do you hate my family” nonsense. My main concern overall is that I do NOT WANT the newborn to be treated differently because he’s “blood” and that seems to be the path we are taking. My son already has a lot against him with his needs. How do I approach this with more intensity? I have 5 or less days before I have this baby.