Advice needed!

You definitely need to talk about it, even if you don’t bring up kink. My main advise would definitely be to not use the words “I’m bored” or “you’re not satisfying me” unless he’s not getting the idea. Don’t say things that would make him feel put down or not good enough. That usually breeds defensiveness and nothing sexy comes out of that. I would say to wait until you’re both relaxed and alone after dinner one night when you both have plenty of time; then try to follow something along the lines of “hey [honey/other pet name] can we talk about something? I love you a lot and you turn me on so much, and I love our sex life [building him up]. I’ve just found that there’s some other things that maybe we could try if you’re comfortable [giving him the option]. I’m really turned on by the idea of you being more rough with me, like if you would spank me and choke me [+ whatever else you’d want to try]. We can explore it together if you want to, and I would really love it. I feel like we’re just using the same positions a lot lately and it’s making it harder for me to feel satisfied.”I’m not sure how you usually communicate with each other, but you can make this conversation as serious or as sexy as you want. If you want it to be serious, sit across from each other and get your point across. If you want it to be more sexy, maybe sit on his lap and whisper what you want him to do to you into his ear. If you think he’s feeling the idea, maybe guide his hand to your throat and show him how you’d like it. Another option would be to take him to a sex store and pick out some things together that you both like.

Ah, felt like I was the only one with this. I think you should be honest to him about what you’re feeling and what you want during sexy time.. maybe try mentioning to him you wanna talk about something’s that’s been in your mind whenever y’all both a have some free time. Communication is key. I’ve talked about it to my partner and although he’s a little into that stuff he’s not ready to do it with me so I tried to instead getting to talk about what we CAN do that we would both enjoy in the meantime.