My husband has never really been that close with his family, but after finding out that he had a child with a one night stand (before we got together) all hell broke loose with his family for both him and me. Our relationship with his mother specifically is very strained. This was all about 3 years ago. She made it very clear at the time how disappointed she was in my husband for getting someone pregnant and not finding out about the child until after they were born. She suddenly hated me. She was so mean. She would seclude me so she could have “family talks” with my husband, her, and her husband. She then started seeing the child frequently when my husband wasn’t “allowed” to. She often lets his baby mama and child spend the night at her house when we don’t even feel welcome there. She’s made it obvious to me that she likes this other woman more than me. Fast forward to now- about 2 years later, my husband and I are now married and have a one year old together. She now makes an effort to be in my life to see my child. It drives me nuts. It feels manipulative.

Anyway, I get really upset because she will take family pictures at special events- football games, birthday parties, holidays, but I’m never asked to be in them. She will get pictures with my husband and my daughter while asking me to take the picture or I’m just standing there watching. She just did this at my child’s first birthday party and I’m still mad about it. I SHOULD be a part of the family. Right?! Am I crazy to be this irritated? Am I overreacting because I am just sensitive to her? I’m over it