my SO and I have been fighting/arguing a lot over the last few months.

He blows up at me for no reason at all just because I’ll ask a simple question or make a simple statement. He’ll call me names and insult me. For example: bitch, stupid, lazy, don’t do enough.. saying I don’t take good enough care of his daughter (my SD who I’ve helped raise since she was 19 months old and who has lived full time with him and I since she was 21 months old. She is 3.5 now. I stay at home full time with her.), saying she’d be better off in daycare full time 11 hours a day while he works... etc etc...

I can’t help feeling that time apart may be good for us, but I just can’t leave my SD. She’s pretty much mine now (besides legally). BM hasn’t seen or spoken to her in almost 2 years (of her own choice).

My SO always apologizes and says he’s trying to change and doesn’t want to hurt me, but then a few days later he does the same thing again. It’s like a vicious circle with him.

I told him that the way he acts and the things he says when we argue are starting to get to me. That it’s emotionally and verbally abusive. That I don’t do all the things I should maybe do because my brain is dead from all of it, (like apparently I should be taking our daughter and the girls I babysit to the park every day and feeding our daughter better food (even though she eats great food and lots of healthy food) — just a couple of the ways he says I don’t do good enough).

I have things I can work on, but I don’t yell and throw names and insults at him. Just don’t know what to do anymore...