Am I stressing my baby?

Question

We visit my fiance's family on weekends, they are super nice but I've noticed a pattern, my baby (10weeks) gets fussy afterwards. On Sunday after having a hard time getting her to nap, she finally slept. The aunt goes over and wakes her up, since then she was fussy for the next 3-4 hours. She's colicky/reflux feel like she's more sensitive. I don't mind them holding her and giving her attention but I'm not sure I'm doing my baby any good. Maybe it's other factors, not sure, there are occasions where she naps well. At my family home, she is left alone during her naps, no one  is looking over her all the time or touching her. My parents play with her for 10-15 min. And the rest of the time I'm there I'm the only one who holds her. 
Do you think passing your baby around for others to hold, it's stressful for the child? Do you think environmental change can be a big deal?

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The visiting shouldn’t be a problem but I definitely think you should ask them to leave her alone during naps. A tired baby is no fun for anyone.

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Yeah overstimulation is a problem.

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Yes my daughter gets overstimulated fast and I’ve noticed the same issue. My in-laws don’t seem to care and wake her up and always mess with her and won’t want her to sleep. At my mom’s she’s able to nap whenever and it’s quiet and more peaceful. I’ve noticed a huge difference from visiting my SO’s family or going anywhere that can overstimulate her and then visiting my family. Overstimulation is definitely the problem and she should be able to nap and rest when she wants and not be woke up.

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She’s your baby.  They should definitely ask before getting her. Period. Especially if she’s sleeping. My in laws tried doing that with me... however I lost the ability to hold my tongue with them during my pregnancy so I’ve had no problems telling them no and to back off.

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They need to let her rest when she needs it. Also, my daughter HATED being passed around. It upset her so much. So yes, some babies do not like it.

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My in laws were a nightmare with this. But hubby helped stop them and now I am
Adamant that no one disturbs LO whilst he’s asleep. Slowly but surely they learned. When it’s not their own they just wanna hold
And love the baby and I don’t blame them for that but it’s easy to forget how babies sleep and a lack there of is bad for their brain development. So I decided to deal with this as respectfully as possible because LOs health was more important.

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Never wake up a napping baby (unless it’s time to eat)! Why do people do this?! 
Make your aunt stop. There’s no need for that.

Am I stressing my baby?

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