I know it sounds nuts but we're considering just having a birthday celebration for our son with my husband, myself and our son. The reason being is the whole family dislikes one another, which should not affect a child clearley. I just don't want to have all that hate in one place around our son and feel it would be much more pleasant to not invite everyone. Also may I mention that no one has shown much care for him since we have had him, and the ones that have live very far away. My husband and I agree and are thinking about buying him a beautiful custom toy box, taking him to an aquarium, and having photos done with the money we would have spent on a big party. We still want to do his smash cake etc, just a private little celebration.