I just want to start off by saying this is absolutely not to any of you guys put probably something you can relate to. Also this is going to be all over the place cause I just need to let it out.

To all of the people that are not TTC or if you've been pregnant and got pregnant on the first couple tries or on accident. This is to the people that don't know what it's like to struggle for something you want so bad. This is to the parents that think they know what to say. This is to the stranger on the street. This is to your coworker or friend. This is to everyone that "doesn't get it".

We are not mad that you don't understand. But please don't say

"when are you guys gonna get pregnant?"

"Just stop trying that's what I did"

"You have time"

"Give it time"

"It will happen when it happens"

"Be patient"

"It can't be that hard"

"Well what's wrong with you"

I know some of those things might sound like the right thing but it's really not. We understand you don't get it and that's okay sometimes we don't even get it. We are frustrated and tired and confused. Month after month negative tests and the bloody show. Or in some cases no bloody show and high hopes just to be let down over and over. Some of us take medicine to induce ovulation and our periods. Some of us have to go threw <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">iui</a> or <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">ivf</a> or adoption to grow our family.

I certainly didn't expect it to take this long no one does. At one point all of might have thought stop taking the pill take the condom off and get busy and then a little one 9 months later. Hell if I knew it was going to take this long I would have never been on birth control.

We get mad and frustrated with ourselves with the situation and in my own experience (I feel terrible about it)

We get frustrated looking at a woman that's clearly pregnant or with a new born. We arent frustrated cause she had a baby or is currently pregnant we get mad our self or mad at our body's for not doing something it was meant for.

Trying is hard. Trying is taxing and draining mentally, emotionally, and physically.

I know that you (a person that doesn't understand) might feel like you need to say something I get it. I was where you were once. Not trying to get pregnant and perfectly content with not having kids yet. Telling my friends just to give it time. This is something I wish I would have known when they went threw this.

Sometimes we don't want anything said but "I'm here if you need me"

"We can get threw this"

"I will pray for your family"

"I'm always here to listen"

Or sometimes a hug will do. We may cry on you so when we come to you with our frustrations please listen. I've felt extremely alone even knowing my spouse is right next to me disappointed too. There are times we will feel so alone like we are the only person going threw it. I know atleast in my case I just want to be heard.

If you want to share this you're more than welcome to. I just needed to get it off my chest 🤷 baby dust to you all ✨✨❤️