I’m in love with someone who will never be mine fully. He is honestly, the partner I’ve ever had. Healthiest bond, relationship, we mesh very well, never stay angry with each other, meet each other half way, he help each other work through our baggage, he’s extremely supportive of me in any way, and I am of him as well. We’re in LOVE, I feel in my chest and I’d spend the rest of my life with him if I could. We’ve been dating for a little over a year now, and honestly, I don’t have a doubt in my mind that he’s the one. We both have pasta and children with other ppl, we both have insecurities, we both have been hurt and we’ve both hurt others before. We’ve been real and honest about our negatives, and we work on combining my positives. But what do you do, when life just gets in your way? His child and her mother moved to California a few years ago, and he feels like he has to move there and be with his child. Everything in our relationship is great except for the fact that he may need to leave. We’ve talked about maybe setting some things up through court, especially because he was supposed to get his child from the start of July till mid August and last minute mom decided that she couldn’t bring her. Same time happened a few months ago for holidays, mom told him a few weeks before Christmas that she didn’t have the money to travel and he’d have to go and get her or pay for them both to come from the west coast to the east and that she wasn’t ready to be away from her child for any holiday so she’d have to sleep at his place, he decided that it wasn’t worth putting a damper in the holidays by taking it all to court a week or 2 before Christmas, so he flew to Cali and spent Christmas there at his daughters grandparents home. Bio mom takes advantage that he feels so guilty for not living where she is. She even calls for him to fill her tank and when he asks her about getting a job, she says she thinks she wants to stay home with her a little bit, mind you, she is in 1st grade. He recently told me that he has started looking for work in Cali, and I lost it I couldn’t control my emotions. I’m debating if i should stay and fight a little longer, he’s even offwred to get us a place, for me and my kids and him so I’m like well whatS going to happen when u leave? You know????? I just feel like at my age, ive Been through way too much. I am 30 years old, I have 2 kids, i have been engaged, cheated on, abandoned by my sons dad when I was pregnant and unemployed, I have been through so much in the last 2 years, and I dont know if I am willing to stick around and basically set myself up to miss out on my life with someone else as much as I am head over heels, I think about my kids. He hasn’t met them yet and probably never will because there is no way he will meet my kids and then they have to lose him too. I did ask, if he will consider allllllll options before deciding to move. His child’s mother is constantly texting and askimf him for help financially and physically, she says she doesn’t have the patience to deal with their child most says and says that her depression really gets a hold of her sometimes. So I wonder if maybe we could have her during the school year and send her to mom for the summer and holidays, I feel selfish saying that but at the same time, this is something she openly admits to on her own. Am I wasting my time? Should I break up with him and keep it pushing?