We don't communicate, we fight *possible trigger*

This is a reoccurring fight we have.

This is how my husband and I fight. It progressed beyond text, and got a little physical. We are still fighting through text as he's at work.

We also got in a big fight Friday night. That one ended in angry hate sex, not makeup sex.

It's not healthy on either side, and we both know it. He refuses counseling and states that we wouldn't have problems if I was just "a dirty fuck slut /good girl". We typically have sex a few times a week, and insists that I should be helping him get off at least 3 times a day. He boasts that he is a GOD and I should worship him, and be grateful to fuck him.

We have been together 15 years, have 2 kids (ages 7, and 9 months). Both kids were awake, one was nursing. When he got frustrated, he started drinking.