wondering what me and my SO should really do with it....

Our daughter (his daughter. my step-daughter) was with a foster family from 3 months old until she was 21 months old after she was taken away from BM by CPS/Social Services.

My SO and I first got to meet her (both for the very first time) when she was 18 (almost 19) months old. She came to live with us full time when she was 21 months old. She is now 3.5 years old.

Almost a year ago now I had asked the foster mom who has our daughters older sister (same BM, different dad) if she wouldn’t mind asking the foster family who had our daughter if they wouldn’t mind sending us pictures of our daughter from that time they had her because we had no baby pictures of her of any kind and WE wanted to make a baby scrapbook for her.

She said she would ask them. She messaged me a few days later saying she talked to them and they said they would send us some, but it may take a little bit.

Months and months go by, we get further and further in to this new year, and we never get anything. So I just assume they decided not to send us anything. It wasn’t surprising as we did not get along with them (not because of a lack of trying on our part) during the time we had visits with our daughter while they still had her, before she came to live with us.

A couple months ago we receive a book in the mail from the foster family. A big picture book they made full of baby pictures and pictures from the time they had her.

Our issues with the book were/are:

1. They call themselves Mom and Dad throughout the entire book, and call all their family members Aunt, Uncle, Nana, Papa, etc...

2. They do not mention my SO in the book at all (not so much concerned that they didn’t mention me either) and simply only state many times over that she (our daughter) was just taken from them and ripped from their loving arms.

3. They literally put in the book that her being taken from them ruined Christmas time for them and caused her (the foster mom) to have complications in her pregnancy (they found out they were pregnant with their 3rd baby only a few days after we got to bring our daughter home with us).

4. We wanted the pictures because WE wanted to make baby book for our daughter, and they knew that, but decided to just make their own.

Now, we have showed the book to our families and some of our friends, they have all told us we should mail it back to them with a letter stating how inappropriate it all is.

We appreciate the pictures, we really do, but the way they did it is totally inappropriate and we never plan on our daughter seeing it. They did send with the book a USB drive with all the pictures on it (which I have put all on my laptop now)

We have always planned on our daughter knowing she was with a foster family and have never ever planned on keeping it from her. I plan on putting a couple pages in the book I want to make explaining it all.

They made this book KNOWING we would see it and read it all and look it over. They put what they wrote in the book knowing full well that it would not sit well with my SO. There is no way they didn’t know that it would piss him off.

So the question is... Do we actually send it back to them with a letter?? Or do we just toss it away and nobody ever speaks of it again...