I’m going to post this anonymously but explain to you the situation.

So my boyfriend and I have had a fairly regular sex life. We usually have sex first thing in the morning when we wake up before we both get ready for work. It’s just about every day there’s some days we don’t and I’m fine with that. Well my period came and we don’t have sex on my period Because it’s just uncomfortable for me. Once it ended we went back to having sex well sex one time and that was yesterday. So he’s got his tablet and I referred to it as his porn tablet. And for the entire four days we didn’t have sex his born tablet literally sat in the same exact position it hadn’t been touched at all. Now don’t get me wrong, porn isn’t a bad thing, under the right circumstances.  but he knows how I feel about it. He knows that to me if he chooses to look at another woman an orgasm to another woman I feel like he’s cheating because I should be the person that he’s sharing those moments with. And back to the story so his tablet hadn’t moved the entire time we didn’t have sex and then we had sex yesterday morning. Well I text him about 11 AM and he didn’t respond back I text him about 1 PM and still no response back. Then I get home at 5 PM and usually during my workday he’ll stop by to see me and say hi not this time. I come upstairs and I go to sit down to relax and I see that the drawer where he keeps his porn tablet is open and his bottle of lotion is partially open and the tablet had been moved. The last time I looked at the tablet several days ago there was no recent history at all. But I didn’t even wanna look at the tablet because I knew what I was going to find. So I text him and I immediately went off because he knows how I feel about it and for him to completely disregard my feelings is really messed up. Plus then I also told him why are you with me if you’re going to be jerking off literally after we had sex just this morning why are we even together I mean the way I take it I’m obviously not doing what I need to do to satisfy him so he’d rather watch porn instead of have sex. And he tried to sit there and lie to me saying he wasn’t watching porn. Well then he comes home he’s like even if I was watching porn “who cares” And I told him I care and all he told me was that I was just trying to bitch about everything and that’s all I ever do is bitch. Try to make it my fault for some weird fucked up reason to take the heat off of him. Well then before we’re going to bed he’s like the next time I choose to jerk off I’ll just come and fuck you instead wherever you’re at and I’m like no I don’t want you to come and fuck me how about we make a dirty video and you watch it and jerk off to it how about I send you dirty pictures of me and you jerk off to those. But this morning again unusual because every other morning the first thing he does the moment he wakes up he’s grabbing on my ass pulling on my panties. Instead he rolled over and got on his phone and spent all morning on his phone and when I asked him he’s like well you’re mad at me and like when has me being mad at you ever stopped you from trying to get sex? So I told him I feel that our sex life is obviously dead because he doesn’t even make the effort to show interest anymore and said he’d rather jerk off to porn and he still try to deny it so I turn the tablet on and sure enough there was a recent history of porn on the tablet and he tried to lie to me even though it was right there in front of his face what the proof was. 

UPDATE

For those who say I’m overreacting, he told me he wouldn’t be watching porn anymore because he felt wrong jerking off to other women and seeing other women naked and I hadn’t even said anything to him when he came to that conclusion on his own. I mean literally he can do what he wants with his body and will regardless of how he makes me feel in the process. And actually I didn’t know that he was such an avid porn watcher when we first started seeing each other. And as far as taking it personally, I do take it personally when he will have sex with me, I don’t orgasm and he does and then I get in the shower and walk in on him jerking off to porn when we had just finished having sex 10 minutes prior. Because I was literally like a slap in the face like obviously I didn’t fully take care of his needs if he felt the need to after we had finished. And there are many more instances where he and I have gone weeks without sex and I’ve tried to suggest we have sex and he tells me: “I’m not in the mood” then goes upstairs to “nap” and I go upstairs to get my laptop and he’s watching porn and jerking off. Tell me how I’m not supposed to take that personally.

And it’s perfectly okay for me to want to be involved in his sexual fantasies. But for him to flat out lie to my face is what upsets me. Even when I literally show him and he tries to say it was from a month ago when the browsing history date says when it was viewed. Not to mention the fact that he told me he wants me to get rid of my vibrator because I don’t have a reason for having one because I have him. I feel the same way about porn as he does about my vibrator, I stopped using my vibrator because of how he feels. If I masturbate I use my fingers. He tells me not to masturbate unless he’s asleep or not home because it’s not fair to him.

And I’ve tried to suggest we watch it together and when we are both sufficiently turned on, help each other cum.