Today my father and I got into a very big argument after I told him I wouldn’t take him and his ex partner the airport so they can go on holiday for a week (they’ve been on and off for over 5yrs and they’re a fwb kind of thing, complicated)

Me and her can’t be in the same room together as she previously lived with us, I kicked her out due to severe alcoholism and abuse, she almost killed all of us in the house by leaving the gas on and would abuse my cat through her dislike of me, etc. It’s been just over 3 years since I told her to leave and there has been problems of her still drinking, coming over ours to see my dad (his choice and won’t stop letting her in no matter how much I beg him not too) she has severe problems but her and my dad both emotionally abuse each other quite bad, it’s a weird situation.

I refused to awkwardly put myself in a car with her, cause myself anxiety and drive nearly 30 minuets out of my way so they can catch an airplane for the holiday whilst very heavily pregnant and suffering with SPD as it is. He got extremely upset about this and decided to then throw my appointment list away, so I went upstairs to keep out of his way, about an hour later he storms into my room and starts shouting beyond levels, I was crying and he was threatening me for the first time in my life that if I do anything to mess up his financial situations or “fuck him over in anyway” he will kill me and then himself.

He has never ever said anything like this to me in my life, we had always been close till about a year ago when he started smoking weed, excessively losing weight through body dysmorphia and a lot of other things. He was angry but I’ve seen him a lot angrier and just never heard him say anything as nasty as that before. I’m still beyond hurt and a bit scared, he has said sorry and been feeling sorry for himself all day afterwards but later told me his ex was filling his head saying that I was using him and going to run off and take him for all his worth, etc. I’m weeks off having my little boy, I can’t move and I’m so broke, what can I do?