* So I got pregnant very early (literally a week into a relationship...) with a boy, we’ll call him Carsen. During the pregnancy, i didn’t announce till I was 14 weeks cuz I was only 18 and scared of what my parents would say. (I had been emancipated at age 16 due to abuse by them, but we later regrew together and I was scared of losing them again.) my dad was happy for me, but he HATED carsen, so he was very distant during my pregnancy. He didn’t even show up while I was in labor till a day after the baby was born... he’s seen my son about 9 times in the past year. I met another man, a wonderful man, we’ll call him John. John & my dad get along AMAZINGLY. My dad invited us over all the time while my son is at his dads and we have a blast together. I told him I’m pregnant (well, he guessed it because he says I’m “glowing”)and he basically jumped up and down saying he can’t wait for this baby and he’s so excited for this. He said he can’t wait for me and John to build our family together & be happy and settled, no more complications or abusive boyfriends. It was so sweet, it made me and my dad both cry.

But... I can’t help wonder... How is this gonna make my son feel when they are older..? His grandma on my side of the family is gonna be visiting all the time and be connected to this child (I WANT him to be, do not get me wrong) but Masen is just gonna be an outsider to him..? That bothers me so much... I tried talking to my dad about it, but my dad always says “of course I’ll always love Masen, but he looks like his dad, acts like his dad... I saw how his family raised HIM and now he’s half of him. There’s nothing we can do but TRY to raise him right but it’s gonna be hard with parents teaching him two different life styles” (I’m a very Non-materialistic person. I love small things, picnics, Walks, Park dates, Movies, hiking. His dad loves huge TVS, he has expensive cars, the best of best phones, the hottest girls he wants, and his parents give him EVERYTHING he wants, I work for what I have.)

I just need reassurance, or I need people to tell me I’m insane for letting it bother me, or tell me I need to straighten my dad out, I just NEED advice. Plz ladies, and thank u!