My bf cheated on me

3 weeks ago, I found out my boyfriend (ex-boyfriend now) is cheating on me.

We’ve been together for almost an year and in the last 2 months of our relationship we moved in together.

At the beginning, we had a really nice relationship, I felt he has everything I’ve been looking for and he was very loving and careful.

After some tine, I started to feel that something changed in his behavior. In the same period, he started to have more work related stuff to do and I thought that’s why.

I have always trusted him and me as a person I don’t like to control him.

Previous to moving in together, we argued about it, because he kept on saying he really wants it, but kinda tried to postpone the moment. When I moved in with him, I felt that our relationship grew and he’s really into me, but at some point I found on Instagram that he sent to another girl a picture with the seaside (where we had a vacation together) and saying to her “ I am waiting for you”. I was really disappointed and I wanted to move out and break up with him, but he said he loves me, that it wasn’t something serious and that he’ll make me trust him again.

I remained, but of course I started to question a lot of things, so 3 weeks ago I found his old phone and when I entered on WhatsApp I found out he cheated on me in June with a girl that he previously had a short relationship before me. They met once ( that what he says and I only have proofs that they met once) and kissed, but they kept talking more or less until we moved in together. In the messages I saw, he was telling to her that he doesn’t love me, but that I am a good company.

Meanwhile he was talking to her, he had a house under construction in his native town where he insisted that is “our house” and he decorated it with the things I liked and that there we will have our kids.

After I found out, I didn’t want to hear explanation, we had a short talk and he said it was a mistake and that he loves me.

For 2 weeks, he called me everyday ( I didn’t pick up), wrote to my bff to ask if there’s any chance he can talk to me and once he came at my workplace, but I just said to him to not approach me and I entered the building.

In the last week, he stopped trying to contact me.

What’s your opinion about what happened?

I’ve been really strong until now, but now I have a heavy feeling of sadness and that I miss him. I really want to see him, but I know it’s a mistake, because once a cheater, always a cheater.