Is age just a number ?

Jasmine
Okay everybody I'm 20 and I'm talking to this guy who's 29 and it's weird because I never thought I'd actually talk to someone so much older than me.  I get a lot of backlash for it which I understand I guess he's more experienced in life and people may feel like he'd take advantage of me. HOWEVER I'm mature for my age and think that it's no different than if he was to be 27 or something. I just want people's input on how they feel about the situation. Also he has an 11 year old son and we've had sex already in case that adds to the discussion at all. I want honest opinions thanks guys 😀😀
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Al

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20 is pretty young but my fiancé and I met when I was 21 and a half. He is 12 years older than me. I absolutely love our age difference and wouldn't change it for the world! He knows so much about so many things.. Everyday I learn something new about him! It's pretty funny because he told me he wanted me to have his children after 2 weeks of knowing each other!! Well, he was right (: I just conceived our first child! He just turned 35 and I am 23. What's even better? He proposed to me about 2 weeks before either of us knew I was pregnant haha I couldn't be happier. Follow your heart but always listen to your brain. Make sure he is a good guy.. I know that sounds silly but it is the best advice I could give you. Keep your eyes open. Ask questions. Don't be naive 🙌🏼 

JB

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My husband and I are 8 years apart...met at 21 & 29 (ten years ago). We waited a long time to get married because, honestly, I wanted to grow up a little before making that decision. A lot changes in a person in their 20s...who you are at 20 will be light-years away from who you'll be at 30, but that doesn't mean he won't make that journey with you. ☺

Na

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Maturity has a lot to do with it. I'm 31 and my DH is 24. We met when I was 30 and it was his 23rd bday. Been together for a yr and married last week. I also have a 9 yr old daughter he wants to adopt. Age is just a number. But just make sure you're ready for the responsibility of being with someone who has a child that will take up some (if not most) of his attention and time. And hopefully her mother isn't an issue, but be prepared for that as well if it gets real serious.

Me

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Ive been married for 3 years to a man 8 years older than me. I love him more than anything! When we met he was 39 and i was 31. It hasnt caused any problems, but he also is very physically fit too! ;)

Me

Melissa • Oct 15, 2015
yes, its very nice! :)

Ja

Jasmine • Oct 15, 2015
That's how he is which is great 😏

Ca

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I think If you like him, give it a chance. Do what you want. Don't listen to people who judge because of age differences. I'm 23 and my husband is 31. I was 19 when I met my husband.

Ki

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Men don't really fully develop maturity until 25 yrs old & no I'm not making it up lol! The part of their brain that controls impulses & maturity doesn't fully develop til around 25 & women mature a lot younger so maturity wise your about the right age for each other ;)

An

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I'm 25 almost 26 and my boyfriend is 34. We love each other so much I say age doesn't matter 

Er

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Age is just a number to a certain extent like a 16 year old shouldn't be dating a 40 year old or shouldn't be dating a 10 year old. I don't really understand also why a 20 year old would date a 80 year old but that happens to so I just think that's to much of a age gap.

Me

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When I met my SO I was 20 and he was 29. Meeting him was one of the best things that has ever happened to me, he is my heart and soul. Age means nothing more than you let it mean.

Te

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Just be honest with yourself about how you feel and where you each are at in life. If you're each working toward a common goal or have similar pictures in mind, nbd! With a kid involved, they should always be put into consideration...probably first, if his dad is doing it right. Anyway, to answer your question, yeah a lot of the time, it is. But it comes down to a person to person type thing and you'll figure it out. I am about 25 and have dated much older men. It's all gone well, but I haven't stayed with any so far. Mostly because they wanted more permanent arrangements. Just do you!