Should I get my boyfriend to talk to me about his mom? His mom was a good mom but when he was 14 his mom was friends with someone who was in a domestic violence relationship. They were best friends since childhood and his mom was visiting when an ex broke in the house with a gun and she tried to stop him and he threw rubbing alcohol in her eyes and her friend screamed run and she ran as fast as she could while hearing her best friend and her child scream and then heard gunshots. He killed himself after he killed them. It really messed with her BAD mentally and she ended up getting on medication for PTSD I guess and today she's like not here mentally, he says it's because of all the medication she's been on for years it's like screwed her brain. (I went into all of that basically just to explain why I don't hate his mother or think she's a horrible person)  She left him and his dad and all his 7 siblings some of which were just babies at the time . He raised himself after that point.  I understand why he wouldn't want to talk about it. But she lies to him and tells him she's coming to see him blows him off and makes promises she never keeps. My boyfriend struggles with depression really bad and maybe if he could get some things off his chest it would feel better. It's like he holds all of that inside and I can see it building up. It hurts him. I don't think I can fix my boyfriend but I see so much of him and I know him better than he knows himself. He blocks so much out and continues to let people walk all over him just so he doesn't lose anyone.