Hey y’all I am 19 and had my virginity taken last year, 18 at the time, by someone who I would call my best friend. I took my day and cried it out over what I lost because I held it at a high standard. I didn’t want to lose my virginity to just anyone but ay, stuff happens. My friends said that I dealt with it wrong because I just let it go after my crying day. One of my friends said “Pain demands to be felt” but I don’t want to deal or “feel” that pain. One of these days it’ll come out but right now I feel lost, I guess. When I was in my elementary school days, I was molested by two different cousins, one female and one male, on two different occasions. So my mindset honestly is “it is what it is” and “shit happens” and maybe that’s why I was just so numb to this recent situation. Idky I chose to comment in here but yeah, story of my life.