Toxic

How do you get rid of someone in your life who is toxic but you have 2 children with them. One on the way and one is 3. I’ve tried to leave before but when trying to co parent it’s the same toxicity (did I use that right 🤔🤨) by that I mean when trying to set up a plan bc I didn’t want to have to deal with the verbal abuse he refuse to work with me cause I wanted to have someone like his parents pick my son up so I didn’t have to get caught in his bs every weekend. Every phone call to my son he thinks we have to speak about things that doesn’t pertain our son stuff like “why are you doing this to our family” “why don’t you just come home” I know I don’t have to listen to that stuff but when you’ve been in a relationship like this you know how hard it is to try and leave and also get away from them and talk/text them about your children. It’s never gonna be an easy break with him. My family lives several states over and he is good to our son. He just thinks that he is never at fault and I’m so sick of it. Before I had to either stay in a roach/rat infested house bc that’s the only person who could help me plus also staying on the street. Moving my car several locations so I could sleep without someone calling the cops on me. (My son stayed with dad at the time) I’m not saying itsnot possible but I don’t just have a friend house I can g to. I’m supposed to go to an interview on Tuesday for a job bc I got tired of him trying to hold his money against me if we got in arguments..

I wanted to add it’s not constantly like this I’m just tired of the times that it is. I already deal with insecurities with myself then I have to deal with someone who basically magnifies that and tries to hurt me intentionally verbally only but it’s still abusive behavior. We can be ok for weeks even months and then I have to deal with this.