Hi there women and girls on glow ttc!

I've got a strange question but I gotta ask what you guys think.

For a little bit of background: I've always known I wanted to be a mommy. I knew since I was at least 8 when I started praying for a baby ("just like that" because that's how my mind worked back then) when I was 12 I was looking up about what was needed for pregnancy and babies and necessities.. And I decided I wanted to have a baby when I was 21, conditions were that I had a place of my own, a job and a boyfriend of at least 5 years.

Fastforward to 2 years ago when I was 24, had a place of my own, a job and a boyfriend of 3 years when we started ttc.

2 years later we're seeing a fertility specialist (finally)...

We're still waiting for the results but my boyfriend already told me that he doesn't want

<a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a>

or donor sperm, and he's not sure about insemination.

He told me that if any of those above will be needed, he wants me to give up my baby dreams and 'learn to live with' being stephmom of his 3 kids.

I'm not sure I can do that.

I told him that I'm not sure I can do that.

I kind of told him that if that were the case I'd be moving on without him, being a single mom with donor sperm.

Definitely after trying so long.. It feels like something I can't put away.

Is this selfish of me?

Update: wow thx for the support.

Regarding donor sperm he doesn't want it because he doesn' t want to raise someone else's child (which seems so hypocrite to me because I'm raising his (and his very ungratefull ex's) 3 children)

Regarding <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> he just doesn't want the hassle, the hormones, the driving around, the money spent even before the baby's there and he didn't exactly knew about insemination but he thought that was pretty invasive as well when I explained him.

I'm now 26, I was 24 when we started ttc.

I'd be a single mom because I don't want to wait for another man to come around and then spend another few years together to find out wether he's the right one or not. The right man for me would accept my kid.