So my fiancé’s parents are pretty toxic people. Cutting a long story short I have a one year old daughter who I don’t really like his parents to see because my fil is a pervert who has touched me inappropriately and several other women and is just vile in every way, and my mil is totally aware and does nothing to stop it. (Go on my profile if you care for more info).

Any way, my fiancé eventually had to have serious talk with my mil over this explaining why we’re not comfortable.

Mil had cancer a few years ago and every time someone says something to her she doesn’t like she plays the cancer card.

Of course I’m sorry she went through that and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. But she will often guilt trip my fiancé saying things like “I could’ve died, my life is precious to me now” as an argument. Or she said, “if the cancer comes back and I die, and my granddaughter doesn’t know us, my soul won’t be able to rest”.

Like I understand it’s upsetting, but is it fair to use it against us to get what you want? As like a get out of jail free card? I don’t think it should be used as an excuse for me to over look serious issues I have concerning my child’s welfare.